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Why gratitude

If you’re at all involved in the self improvement community (or if you have a Facebook account), chances are good that you’ve heard quite a bit about gratitude.

We’ve seen pictures of people serenely meditating, we’ve heard lists of things our friends are grateful for, and we’ve seen the word “gratitude” written in all kinds of beautiful, inspiring fonts.

But why is gratitude such a buzz word?

Gratitude is a very powerful tool. It’s a practical and simple way to access your subconscious and tell it what you’d like more of.

Gratitude is acknowledging and celebrating the beauty and positivity in your life. It’s about noticing the good things in any situation.

Be thankful for the beauty in your world and build your positivity.

Be thankful for the beauty in your world and build your positivity.

When you relish the gifts you’ve been given in a “good” situation, it becomes even sweeter. By celebrating these things, you ask your subconscious mind to keep looking for beauty and positivity.

When you take the positive and the lessons from a “bad” situation, you can make it a net positive by putting those lessons to work in your life and in the lives of the people around you.  Most importantly, gratitude can bring a hint of sunshine to the cloudiest of days.  Even when something tragic has occurred, you can find something – anything – to be grateful for, and you will know that things will improve once again.

When you express gratitude, you ask for more good stuff.

This works with people, of course.  When you tell your friends and family what you’re grateful for in you relationship right now, you acknowledge the things they do for you, make them feel good, and condition them to continue giving you those great things.

This works with the Universe as well.  When you acknowledge and call out the things you like, the Universe will provide you with more of that.  (This is the strategy that’s employed most in self-improvement circles and that’s the basis of all those Facebook posts.)

Finally, it works in your mind.  When you celebrate the good things in your life, you ask your mind to find more things like that.  You will find yourself focusing more and more on things you can be grateful for, rather than on complaints or criticisms.  It’s one of the most effective positivity and confidence exercises there is.

So what are you grateful for today?


Start with the man in the mirror

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CarolAnn to partner with Whimsy Jewelry’s Style on a Whim blog

CharismaU founder, CarolAnn Edie, has a new partner!  CarolAnn will be blogging for Whimsy Jewelry’s Style on a Whim blog.

I decided to partner with Whimsy largely because of their motto: Make the world more beautiful.

Whimsy jewelry is beautiful and high-quality, and the best thing about it is it’s insanely customizable.Continue Reading

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What to do after a fight

An excerpt from last week’s newsletter, in case you missed it… Question: We had a fight.  Should I leave him alone totally or try to get him to talk? When you have a disagreement or argument, it’s important to give each other some time to cool off, think and regroup. If you don’t live together,Continue Reading

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I recently saw an example of someone networking exactly wrong. Hopefully we can all learn from this person, implement the confidence techniques we already have, and network a little bit better.Continue Reading

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Come on, get classy!

An excerpt from this week’s newsletter, in case you missed it… Question:  I’m ready to change my look.  How do I give a classier impression with my hair, make-up, clothing and speech without seeming common or boring? The first and most important part of being classy (and creating confidence and a great personal style) isContinue Reading

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