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How not to network

Don’t be an un-networker

Have you ever seen an un-networker?  The person who seems to be totally focused on them and no one else?  Hopefully you haven’t been that person.

I recently saw an example of someone networking exactly wrong.  I was shocked.  I honestly didn’t think anyone really acted like that.  They butted into a conversation, asked questions totally unrelated to what we were talking about, and started throwing business cards around at everyone.  It took me less than 3 seconds to decide that I would never do business with someone like that, even though I was the ideal customer.  Hopefully we can all learn from this person, implement the confidence techniques we already have, and network a little bit better.

The un-networker:

  • is preoccupied with themselves
  • runs around to different groups of people asking questions related only to their business
  • hands out business cards like there’s no tomorrow
  • interrupts conversations by pushing their own message
  • has no interest in the other people there – only their money

The un-networker doesn’t recognize networking as a way to connect with other people and create relationships.  They see it merely as an opportunity to gain business and dollars.  Selfishness is the number one sin of the un-networker.  In order to get great results from networking, it’s essential to realize that it’s all about creating relationships and rapport.

The quality networker:

  • engages in meaningful and helpful conversation with others
  • exchanges contact information with others – and follows up!
  • uses confidence techniques to open up and connect with others
  • is interested in what other people do, think, want and need
  • connects people who could help each other
  • respects the conversations and connections of others
  • is open, genuine and frendly

When you’re at an event, be a quality networker, not the un-networker.  Remember, you have the power!


Love, CarolAnn

What moving slowly says to others

Move slowly when you’re at your destination. This is advice from one of my mentors.   But why?  What could moving around a room slowly do to boost people’s perception of you? It does a couple things.  Walking slowly once you’re in the room suggests that you want to be there, and that you’re reallyContinue Reading

Making SMART resolutions

An excerpt from this week’s newsletter, in case you missed it… How SMART are you? Happy New Year! Now is the time for resolutions.  So how do you make them count?  There are two big things you can do to help ensure your resolutions are successful.  First of all, make the right ones, and secondly,Continue Reading

Is fear holding you back?

Many people are afraid of change or afraid of success, and they let it stop them. You don’t have to be like that. Realize that it’s okay to be afraid, and that everything is a choice. This is one of the most important changes to make in your life. It’s the most basic of all the confidence techniques.Continue Reading

A simple smile…

Do you want to be happier and healthier?  Do you want to live longer?  Do you want to seem friendly and competent to those around you?  Do you want to cause the people in your presence to feel happier too? Well there’s one thing you can do to accomplish all of this – SMILE! Yes,Continue Reading

Happy St. Patrick’s Day!

I’d like to take this opportunity to wish everyone a very happy St. Patrick’s Day!! No, I’m not Irish, and everyone’s Irish on St. Patty’s Day, right? I take every opportunity I get to celebrate.  It’s one of my favorite ways to find tons of joy in every day life, and one of the bestContinue Reading

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